Is "Misery" Really a Stage of Marriage?
There's a well known program in the Catholic world designed to help save struggling marriages. Trouble is, it justifies the pain you feel instead of eliminating the root cause of it.
Without naming names, let's talk about one of the most well known programs in the Catholic world for helping couples with their marriage. The program teaches that marriage follows four stages:
1. Romance
2. Disillusionment
3. Misery
4. Awakening
The rationale is that most divorces happen when couples go through the "misery" stage not realizing that it's "normal" and they never make it to the awakening stage where things calm down and at last, become more peaceful.
No. No No. No! No!
And honestly....Ew!
Let me set the record straight for you.
There is literally no such thing as "misery" as a stage of marriage.
First of all. Let's begin by tapping into our common sense.
Is there ever a stage in any area of life where being in excruciating pain and extreme "misery" is a sign of health and growth?
No. There isn't.
Think about that pain scale in your doctor's office with the smiley faces and progressively sad and miserable faces.
Misery is a clear sign that something is seriously wrong, not that something is a healthy stage of authentic development.
So claiming that "misery" is a healthy stage. Ooooh. That bothers me. That bothers me a lot!
Because you know what.
It. Simply. Isn't. True!
The problem is that the program designers do not know what the root cause of marriage pain *actually* is.
So in a noble effort to help couples stay faithful to their vows (I wholeheartedly applaud that intention!), they want to justify "misery" as just normal part of the marriage relationship...
with the pale promise that there's light at the end of the tunnel, because (aha!) there's a fourth stage where things will get better...eventually...
(And who knows how long "misery" lasts.)
Let's get professional here for a minute.
If you show up in the ER with abdominal pain you describe as "miserable" your physician is going to give you a shot of morphine and take some scans right away because he or she knows--as any professional would--that something is seriously wrong, not right.
Literally no one would presume that everything is going exactly as it should be.
Remember, you are completely unavailable for misery!
You and your husband were made to love and be loved in the sex specific design of him delightfully chasing after you, pursuing you, and you receiving his wildly attractive masculine and tender love for you.
It's 100% possible without any misery at all and it's yours to receive.
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