Your Marriage is Sacred,and YES, You Can Be Tenderly Loved

Create LASTING Intimacy with Your Husband!

You have made it to the right place!

Here's the thing:
Marriage is the sacred relationship where you and your husband love each other right in the deepest core of his masculine heart and your feminine heart. It's the way that your ache to be pursued, adored, and tenderly loved by a strong and handsome man who takes care of you, desires you, and fills your heart with love...
meets his deepest ache to be loved by his woman, in the way that only his woman can touch his heart as a man...
It is a joy when he honors your heart and you, his.
If you really dig into why you feel hurt and distant from him, it's because you don't feel his strong and tender manly love for you.
I believe that every woman deserves to feel delighted in, taken care of and deeply cherished in her relationship. And I believe it with everything in me.

Your Desire for a Happy, Tender, Intimate Relationship
is Your Birthright as a Woman...

There are 7 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy every woman should know because when you do them
you will easily attract your husband's protective & tender love for you.
Receiving all the intimacy you want from your husband is not about being pushy, forceful, or telling him about all the problems you see, or denying your own desires. Nor is it about convincing him that he has to do X, Y or Z out of fear that something really bad will happen if he doesn't. Hallelujah.
That kind of communication creates negative effects in our relationships and lives.
What I am talking about is sharing authentically from your own heart.
Revealing your heart to him so that he goes out of his way to support you and make you feel cherished is a beautiful, intentional, intimate act......once you learn to view it--and do it--that way.

Hi! I'm Irene Alexander, Ph.D., C.L.C.

I started watching marriages fall apart all around me, even though these really good hearted couples were actively looking for help and "trying everything."
I took one look at the marriage help industry and realized that a lot of the methods they teach are actually exacerbating the problem.
Not to mention their lack of reverence for marriage vow is deeply problematic.
Even a lot of counselors I interviewed secretly told me that their secular training was "sub par."
So I tuned more deeply into my work as a professor of Christian marriage in the writings of John Paul II, a tradition which honors the way man and woman complement each other sexually in their deepest desire to be loved--and the BREAKTHROUGHS were AMAZING!
Today, I am known for helping women create, keep, attract and receive all the love and intimacy they want from their husband--the very thing, they've always dreamed of as little girls.
I want you to receive more joy and love in your marriage than you can imagine! I want to give you the practical and spiritual tools to do so.

I don't know anyone who repairs relationships the way that I do...

I do it by showing you exactly how to honor your man's heart and he yours.
And I wouldn't want to do it any other way.

And I'm here to show you how!

Women tend to have a lot of theories about why their relationship is a struggle.
Once we get to talking. I find out that their theories are usually wrong.
Some believe that their husbands' won't change their bad behaviors and that's the real problem.
Over the years, I have tested this theory, and every time it's wrong. The reason? Focusing on what he's doing wrong and needs to improve is not what actually moves a man's heart to take action and change. It actually makes the situation worse!
Women often get stuck talking about the "problems," sharing how they feel about the "problems" and this conversation goes nowhere.
It doesn't help you connect to him emotionally or arouse him to action.
Even worse, he will likely respond negatively to this approach and then you both feel so hopeless.
What I've found to be true every single time is that HOW women share their hearts in the relationship immediately affects how their husbands respond to them.
And it works every time! That's why I know that...

"He Won't Change" Isn't the Problem

Some believe that he's too damaged from his childhood or has too many personal problems.
Listen! When you know how to keep EMOTIONAL SAFETY in your relationship it doesn't matter what the specific personal problems are because:
(a.) he will talk to you about them in a way that feels safe and (b.) he will take action on these issues himself without them interfering in your husband-wife relationship.
I've talked to men personally who struggled with childhood trauma, drinking, narcissism, even same-sex attraction, who deeply cared about their wives' happiness, and wanted to do all within their power to make her feel taken care of, supported, and loved.
When women tell me "he's too damaged and that's why we're fighting," what's lacking every time is emotional safety in the relationship, and fixing that depends on you.

"He's Too Damaged" Isn't the Problem

Some women believe they just married a bad man.
In my experience, 99% of the time, this is never the case. (I reserve the 1% for criminal activity--and I do know some relationships in this category, so I speak on this with integrity.)
What happened is that your husband disappointed you in some way and it really hurt you.
You felt wounded by this experience.
You began to feel like he doesn't really love you, since when you explained it to him, he did not react to your grief in the way you thought he would.
Maybe he didn't even think it was a big deal!
The more you tried to point this out, the worse he reacted, which began to confirm in your mind that he's a bad man and you made a mistake in marrying him.
Hun, I hear you! (Tissue?)
You may not be seeing that sweet side of him lately because your relationship is in a hurtful pattern.
He (unintentionally) hurts you in the core place where you most yearn to be loved, and your attempts to get more from him (unintentionally) hurt him in his core place where he most yearns for your love.
THIS is the pattern which breaks down the love between husband and wife in marriage and it can be reversed, even quickly. That's why I want to share all this with you.

"I married the wrong man" Isn't the Problem

I teach women how to lovingly attract their husband back into their heart and their world, no matter the circumstance, problem, or whatever reason they come up with for why they think they can't have the relationship they want.
Through my decision to teach this body of work and coach women on their unique challenges, I've witnessed amazing relationship transformations.
I'm talking about really good-hearted women who have felt hurt and lonely for years, all of a sudden finding themselves receiving SO much love, attention, affection, support, and tenderness from their husbands
without their husband's even working on the relationship!
How is this even possible?
Because you're reigniting the Rhythm of Love that leads to the FULFILLMENT of each other's hearts.
All while the "marriage help" industry will hear out your problems, watch you and your husband fight, try to teach you active listening or focus on childhood wounds, see that it doesn't work, and then just encourage you to divorce.
Hun, you deserve so much more. You deserve to honor your heart's deepest ache for intimacy.
I can teach you how to be very intentional with what you say, do, think, feel, and believe and GET READY...because repairing your relationship will happen quickly.
When your heart is in the right place, when you're open to learning, and you believe that being tenderly loved in your marriage is your birthright as a woman...
Nothing can stop your husband from stepping up to be the hero of your heart.
That's why I can confidently say that I have mastered the art of helping you create intimacy based on the REAL sexual complementarity between a man and a woman.
I know how to help you connect to his heart and he to yours.
I know how to help you get into the energy of trust and confidence that your relationship from here on out will always be strong.
I know how to help you create the emotional safety in your relationship so your husband vulnerably shares his heart with you.

And I do it WITHOUT "fixing" him or his personal problems

I am here to demystify the process and methods for you, while guiding you to find the specific ways that feel right for you.
Like everyone else, I tried things the hard way first.
I listened to the industry advice: "just honestly communicate how you feel to your life-partner" and told myself tales about why it wasn't working.
I lacked trust in myself and in what I always knew to be true in my feminine heart.
I had times of cold-awkward silences in my relationship when I "honestly communicated" and it led to feeling emotionally disconnected.
Turns out no relationship ever got better by focusing on what's not working, believing your husband is too flawed, or treating you or your husband like you're just generic non-sexual "partners." That just leads to more emotional distance.
That's not what I want for you.
Now I know this important truth.

Being Attuned to Sexual Difference in the Human HeartCHANGES YOUR MARRIAGEAND YOUR LIFE!

Knowing how to inspire your husband's love for you, serves you, him, and your kids, and even grandkids for a LIFETIME.

Here's the Truth: Marriage doesn't have to be hard and you don't have to keep feeling hurt or distant in your relationship

What I am here to show you will change everything.
WELCOME TO...

An immersion into the sacred womanlyart of being pursued, adored, and tenderly loved in your marriage.
This is a sacred journey!
This is a beautiful combination of practical principles and spiritual renewal.
It's about creating intimacy with intention. 
This is your permission to step into the identity of the woman who is Adored for Life.
Let's eliminate the doubt around your relationship, increase your confidence and conviction that you married an amazing man who just longs more than anything for your happiness and to see you at ease.
...and give you a solid belief system around your relationship to lean on for the rest of your life.
And tap into the Woman-to-Woman practical secrets to create intimacy that works for you and feels good to you.
It's time to share your beautiful heart in a way that draws him in to your world and you his.
It's time to create intimacy in a way that feels so good to your soul, and gives you the freedom to be at ease in each other's presence.
So that your marriage blesses the world!
It's time to share your heart in a way that always pulls him closer to you not away from you, so you can feel joy in your relationship whenever you want.
Because you decided to.
Because you understand the Rhythm of Romantic Love.
How your husband fulfills your heart and you his.
Because you know this whole thing actually works!
Because now you know what to do.
I'm here to show you how.

Part 1 - The 10 Week Core Training CourseThe Pre-Work

You will start the program with a little heart-centered, soul-based mindset training that will unfold for the first three days. 
You will shed all the reasons you cling to for why you believe your relationship won't work, so you can begin to step into creating the intimacy you long for.
This is your foundation. Solidify your identity as the woman who steps into being Adored for Life.
Release the fears and doubts you have around your relationship. The Pre-Work includes three training emails that unlock over 3 days as well as the "Welcome to the Party" Video you'll get immediate access to upon enrolling. 
Don't skip this! It's more impactful than most entire marriage programs! 

Module 1 - The Mystery of Femininity in Romantic Love

This is all about the Cycle of Intimacy in its Sex-Specific Design. Discover why, as a woman, you both begin and complete this cycle which leads to fulfillment for both you and your man. You'll also learn about the Cycle of Neglect & Disrespect which is the #1 killer of marital intimacy. 

Module 2 - What to Do When Your Husband Needs to Improve

Get ready for MAJOR transformations. In this module, I share exactly what's going on in your heart and your man's that leads to emotional distance. This is probably the most important week in the whole course. I show you exactly how to communicate your needs in a way that inspires him to respond to you, (while also giving up the "communication" that drives him away and leads to either his anger or stonewalliing). In this step, you begin to restore emotional safety. 

Module 3 - If Mama Ain't Happy, Ain't Nobody Happy

Have you ever heard that "love isn't a feeling"? It's complete B.S. Your emotional life and how you feel plays a tremendous role in cultivating attraction and your husband's affection for you. In this step, we identify what gives you the most joy and what the areas in your life hold you back from a deeper and more beautiful emotional bonding.

Module 4 - How Do You Get Your Husband to Do Things?

Isn't this the million dollar question? lol. One time I typed into Google, "How to..." and this was the Number 1 Question that popped up so this is something a lot women were asking! In this module I share a very different approach than the mainstream: "Just make your complaint in an "I" statement." There is one incredible thing residing in your feminine heart that activates his masculine desire to come through for you. This one is a game changer!

Module 5 - The Number One Way to Love Your Man

Lovin' your husband in the way a man was MEANT to be loved takes your relationship to the next level. There are a lot of little things women typically feel are "normal" but actually hurt their man in a deep way. I cover this in detail so that there's no more miscommunication and your man really and deeply feels your love.

Module 6 - Where All Conflicts Come From & Why It Ain't Right to Fight

Most programs will tell you that "all couples fight" but I'm here to tell you not only is that completely false, but the happiest couples know how to influence each other mutually so that they work through issues and conflicts without fighting at all. I show you exactly how to do this and it is life-changing! This module also includes a special section on Financial Intimacy so you feel confident in your finances, and they will never become an area for frustration for your relationship.

Module 7 - The Essential Ingredient to Getting Adored

In this module I share how I realized I was blocking deeper connection, closeness, and intimacy in my relationship, how I realized this, and what exactly I now do differently. It's SO so good. The secret I share in this module is incredibly easy to do, makes you feel so good, and completely makes your man want to do more and more for you. Get ready to get rid of your resentment once and for all, and to open the gateway to a deeper and more profound tenderness. 

Module 8 - Why Women Need Tenderness & How to Get It

Every woman yearns for her husband's tenderness. That's already half the reason why you said, "I do!" In this module I show you exactly what inspires your husband's protective and tender love for you. Imagine that when you share your heart with him, instead of seeing him offer a solution to your problem, he listens with empathy and profound love. Imagine having the emotional safety necessary for him to share his heart with you, so that you build your dreams together. This is quite possibly my favorite module of all and the source of the deepest transformations. 

Module 9 - What to Do When Sex Isn't Sexy

Men and women are different and no where does this appear more vividly than in the bedroom! Your bodies are different; how you become aroused is different; how you experience intimacy in sex is actually very different but complementary! This module is all about understanding what sexual intimacy is, and then guides you into creating it for yourselves. I cover common obstacles that women and moms face, and specific ways of overcoming them.

Module 10 - The Greatest Romance of All

This last and final module takes the deepest dive into the mystery of your feminine ache to be loved as a bride. Why is it that your heart always aches "for more" love and intimacy, and what you can do with your ache. I also invite you to dive more deeply into your divine calling in a way that makes you energized to fulfill your life-purpose in the world. I show you why this is SO key to keeping the intimacy in your marriage that you have created over the last 10 weeks.

Part 2 - Your Personal Coaching Support

3 Months Personal Coaching

Adored for Life is transformational coaching program, where in addition to the 10 week curriculum, I offer you weekly personal coaching support. Every week for the next 3 months, you can reach out through the client portal and share privately to me both your "wins" and also the specific area where you would like to see your next breakthrough.
I collect all my current client's responses and record a new audio addressing your specific challenges, and send it to you. You can listen whenever it is convenient for you, so you do not ever have to rearrange your schedule to get the personal support you need. 
You get the benefit of having my eyes on your own unique challenges as well as hearing what I say to other clients working through the program which benefits you tremendously! (Have you ever been in a class where someone asked a question you didn't think of, but then you really wanted to hear the answer to it? Yea! It's awesome). Each client works on their own relationship privately and at their own pace, while feeling deeply understood, supported, and challenged to step into the inspired actions that lead you to being Adored for Life. ;) 
It's SO so awesome. ;)