The first thing I did on my journey from “stressed and overwhelmed wife and mom who needed more help but which often resulted in arguments or fights.”
“Happy wife in a thriving marriage because I honored my heart’s deepest ache to be pursued, adored, and tenderly loved.”
was to put MYSELF first.
(Not what you expected me to say! But it’s super important)
It sounds a little crazy, especially when you’re a generous, loving woman, who constantly makes sure everyone else’s needs are met (while probably neglecting your own).
I finally made a decision to invest in myself and in the things that I wanted.
Again. It sounds crazy, especially when all you’re used to hearing about marriage is “love is sacrifice.” So you constantly say “no” to the things you really want.
(Then secretly you feel miserable!)
Allow me to introduce you to a friend of mine. Her name is Hope.
Hi. I'm Hope. I've spent a lot of time communicating with my husband about the issues in our marriage. He hasn’t really responded well yet, but I continue to hope that he’ll listen and follow through.
In the mean time, I still do lots of stuff for him and our kids and very little for myself. When I get a break, I read random blogs, post in private FB groups, and pray a lot for my husband to change.
Whenever someone brags about their husband, I feel a little jealous because I yearn for more in my marriage. But I know there’s nothing I can do because I can’t control his choices, so basically, I'm stuck.
I have read every free blog and attended every free webinar there is. But so far, nothing has really changed in my relationship.
But I keep hoping...