IRENE ALEXANDER, Ph.D., C.L.C. ICF Certified Professional Coach

IRENE ALEXANDER, Ph.D., C.L.C. ICF Certified Professional Coach

How to Build a Happy Thriving Marriage (Minus the Pain)

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The first thing I did on my journey from “stressed and overwhelmed wife and mom who needed more help but which often resulted in arguments or fights.
To...
Happy wife in a thriving marriage because I honored my heart’s deepest ache to be pursued, adored, and tenderly loved.”
was to put MYSELF first.
(Not what you expected me to say! But it’s super important)
It sounds a little crazy, especially when you’re a generous, loving woman, who constantly makes sure everyone else’s needs are met (while probably neglecting your own).
I finally made a decision to invest in myself and in the things that I wanted.
Again. It sounds crazy, especially when all you’re used to hearing about marriage is “love is sacrifice.” So you constantly say “no” to the things you really want.
(Then secretly you feel miserable!)
Allow me to introduce you to a friend of mine. Her name is Hope.

  • Hi. I'm Hope. I've spent a lot of time communicating with my husband about the issues in our marriage. He hasn’t really responded well yet, but I continue to hope that he’ll listen and follow through. 
    In the mean time, I still do lots of stuff for him and our kids and very little for myself. When I get a break, I read random blogs, post in private FB groups, and pray a lot for my husband to change. 
    Whenever someone brags about their husband, I feel a little jealous because I yearn for more in my marriage. But I know there’s nothing I can do because I can’t control his choices, so basically, I'm stuck. 
    I have read every free blog and attended every free webinar there is. But so far, nothing has really changed in my relationship. 
    But I keep hoping...

Hope keeps hoping and nothing changes for her. She's unwilling to invest in herself, her desires, and her dreams.
Now. Let me introduce you to one of my students, Amy!

  • Hi! I'm Amy. I haven't even finished my relationship training yet and I cannot even tell you how much of a game changer Adored for Life has been for me! Irene Alexander, you are a genius! My husband and I are getting along so well, especially in how we approach our conflicts. I wish I could give you a hug. I really mean it. 
    What I love most is having the confidence that my relationship will always be strong. Thank you SO much for all your work building strong marriages. 

If you're feeling like Hope now, *I get it.*
Honestly, it means that you're in touch with your heart's deepest ache for intimacy, the ache that made you a bride. (white dress, rings, flowers, all of it!)
But acknowledging your ache isn't enough.
I want to invite you to release yourself from the doubts you have about your relationship.
Your fears that your husband will fail you. The beliefs you hold about how disappointing he is. Your ideas of how he "should" be acting.
Take a deep breath, let it out slowly...
...and whenever you're ready, I invite you to open your heart to the possibility...the REAL possibility, that your husband can THRILL your heart again.
Here's the big picture view of what I'm talking about again.

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Here's the thing you need to understand.
When it comes to relationships. There's no secret magic bullet.
What matters is that you know and live the principles of complementarity, so that you have a HAPPY, FUN relationship, where you experience your husband's attractive and tender love.
For you.
For your kids.
So you have the fulfilling family life you've always dreamed of. (Even in the midst of teen tantrums or your toddler smearing peanut butter everywhere.)
Much like Amanda did, who shared this while still working her way through the program:

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    "Irene's program opened my eyes, and helped to put a name to something I knew was wrong with my marriage, but couldn't quite put my finger on: the Cycle of Neglect & Disrespect. My husband and I became completely different people over the years, breaking each other down instead of finding our truth. We even talked about divorce. I felt so stuck and helpless. But now I'm thrilled to say we made the positive changes we needed for ourselves and each other. Now our kids have a mom and dad who love each other as much as we love them!" ~Amanda P. 

The beauty of this is that that you don't have "work hard" on your marriage. (In fact, doing way less is will give you more!)
You don't have to chase after him...(Cause he'll be chasing after you).
You don't have to wonder what to do when something bothers you.(Cause you'll have so much support and know how to apply the principles to any situation)

So! Are you ready for the magic of pulling your husband towards you, instead of feeling like you're constantly having to push him to do anything?

There's only one page left. It's time to see if your dream of being pursued, adored, and tenderly loved is a good fit with our HAPPY & FUN relationship training.

*You can find the 10 week class by class breakdown on the next page.